Do you remember that Gilmore Girls episode where Rory is branded as a loner at Chilton because she prefers to read and listen to music on her lunch break? Well, I think I’m in the slightly more grownup equivalent of that situation.
There is no secret sorority, and there is no nighttime traipsing through school in my pyjamas but, I believe my lunchtime reading habit makes me seem rude and antisocial towards my colleagues. They are very nice and I get along just fine with them but we are most certainly not friends so come lunchtime I much prefer to eat while reading my book instead of going for lunch with them.
Just typing the above sentence has me a bit worried that I’m simply trying to pass antisocial tendencies as something else… But, in my defense, I have on occasion accepted lunch invitations from colleagues and, to be honest, I found it rather boring as we don’t have very much in common. So why should I spend my break being bored when I could be reading? Please, please say that you can relate to this even a little bit!
I’m beginning to feel that my reluctance to have my lunch with others and my occasional declining of lunch invitations is making people think I’m weird/a loner/rude. This is frustrating because I don’t think I am any of those things and also because I suspect that if I chose to do something else on my break, like go to the gym or, I don’t know, shop, people would accept it easier. ( Disclosure: I haven’t actually tested this theory.) Surely, reading shouldn’t have any antisocial associations?
I’m not saying that I always choose reading over actual human interaction on my break; I do arrange to meet a good friend who works nearby for lunch about once a week and, of course, on those days I am thrilled to have a nice chat instead of reading over lunch. However if it’s bland conversation with mere acquaintances then, I’m not sure I see a reason for sacrificing my reading time… Apart from the not being the least popular person at work, which is something to think about for sure…
So tell me, do you read on your lunch break? Do you think it makes you look unsociable? Does it sometimes feel like people view you as a loner because of reading? I really hope I’m not alone in this!